January 8th, 2002. That was the date the morning that I returned back to the U.S. after 4 months in Paris. I don’t think that I’ve ever quite gotten over how I felt that day, leaving a life that felt more right to me than anything I had ever done before. At the time, I was convinced that it was Paris that had me so enamored: living en français, the crepes from the man near Jardin Luxembourg, the accessibility of amazing dance and theatre productions, studying art history and psychology and literature in the incredibly detailed fashion of French academia, the ridiculously independent attitude the Parisians maintain….even the overcast days that led to warm nights, even in October. I remember dragging my suitcases up Avenue de l’Opéra (I had budgetted myself to the point where I had just enough freshly minted Euros to get me to the airport and not even a cent more to take a cab to the bus stop!), heading for the bus to Roissy, and a man who had stopped to help me with my bags asked me why I was leaving Paris that day. He only asked because it was the first day of soldes, the semi-annual sales in Paris, but I couldn’t give him an answer because all I wanted to do was turn around and go back. It sounds so cheesy American-girl-abroad, but it was exactly how I felt at the time. It wasn’t until I arrived home that one of my friends asked me if it was really Paris that had gotten me or being on my own for the first time… and I started to wonder. Before I landed in Geneva, I have to admit that I was a little curious about how things would work out here…would I fall in love the way I did with Paris, and would it be with the city or with my independence? The answer: I don’t think that I’ll ever feel about any city the way I did about Paris, but there is more to being abroad than being on your own. Another Watson fellow forwarded me this article on Why We Travel by Pico Iyer…there is so much I agree with in here:
“For if every true love affair can feel like a journey to a foreign country, where you can’t quite speak the language, and you don’t know where you’re going, and you’re pulled ever deeper into the inviting darkness, every trip to a foreign country can be a love affair, where you’re left puzzling over who you are and whom you’ve fallen in love with. All the great travel books are love stories, by some reckoning — from the Odyssey and the Aeneid to the Divine Comedy and the New Testament — and all good trips are, like love, about being carried out of yourself and deposited in the midst of terror and wonder. “
“Thus travel spins us round in two ways at once: It shows us the sights and values and issues that we might ordinarily ignore; but it also, and more deeply, shows us all the parts of ourselves that might otherwise grow rusty. For in traveling to a truly foreign place, we inevitably travel to moods and states of mind and hidden inward passages that we’d otherwise seldom have cause to visit. “
“Few of us ever forget the connection between “travel” and “travail,” and I know that I travel in large part in search of hardship — both my own, which I want to feel, and others’, which I need to see. Travel in that sense guides us toward a better balance of wisdom and compassion — of seeing the world clearly, and yet feeling it truly. For seeing without feeling can obviously be uncaring; while feeling without seeing can be blind. “
When it comes down to it, I think that this is the part that I have fallen in love with….when you try to live elsewhere, even if you’re working every day, you take those baby steps (or flying leaps) in new directions. You, the scientist, become the art critic. You, the independent traveler, learn how to find people you can depend on. Every day, you make a million choices in limited time: where to go, what to do, how to navigate, what language to operate in…so you learn how to make quick decisions based only on what will make you happiest. It’s not that everything is different because, let’s face it, I’m still in Western Europe… but I love this feeling of being somewhere where daily life forces me to readjust and rethink and reconsider. I always picture myself, as I land in a new place, as hitting the ground running. Autopilot, you might say, but what never ceases to amaze me is the gradual slowing down until you’re at the point where you look around and all of a sudden, you blink and so much has happened and you, at the end ironically, don’t quite know where to begin or even quite where you began.
In any case, I’m leaving Geneva in 2 weeks from tomorrow. It seems so far away, but based on that fact I’ve apparently already been here for 11 weeks…. :P. I’ve been frantically making arrangements for India…bitter malaria pills, packing up, finding the cool clubs in Bombay to visit once I arrive ;), arranging hospital visits…. it’s endless. I love planning and I love the fact that I can do whatever I want once I arrive…my boss came into my office this morning insisting that I take a trip to Malaysia while I’m there. Love it.